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You are so brave. Deciding on Home Education.

Deciding on Home Education.

“You are so brave”. This is something I’m hearing a lot at the moment. Today our daughter walks out of her school for the very last time as a pupil. She has been unhappy for a long time, since she started on and off, but each year she had settled in the end and loved it. Up until year two. It got to the point where she was worrying on a Friday about Monday, never getting any down time on the weekend as she was fretting so much about school the following week.I think sending our second child to school really hit home for me how different it could/should be and highlighted just how difficult it’s been for her to settle.

And it’s not the school, they have been brilliant at trying to help in fact, her teacher is the kindest, most caring lady and she will miss her the most. She’s not been bullied either, but she finds it too big, too busy and the playground overwhelming. She is a perfectionist and is driving herself crazy trying to get her work the best it can be. The idea of SATs is a step too far for all of us. Despite the best efforts to the contrary, she knows they are doing them and that it’s a test, she can read the practise papers for a start, and for her, the pressure to perform well is just too much. I know she is bright and intelligent, I have no worries on that count but I also think she needs more fresh air and freedom then a conventional school is allowed to give her.

A model student at school, she couldn’t hold it together anymore at home and the anxious meltdowns have been taking their toll on the entire family. The daily battle to get her in has become so draining. Most of all, my child is miserable. I can’t take another day of seeing her pale, pinched, drawn face, nails bitten to the quick, and so, after much decision and more then a few tears, we have made a radical decision.

Home Education.

There is so much in the news about it at the moment with Stacey Solomon’s announcement that she is doing it with her boys, and the statistics are overwhelming. Home schooling figures are at an all time high and climbing rapidly year after year, there has been a 97% increase in UK home educated children since 2011. This means that there are now so many provisions for home schooling families available, I was actually shocked at the wealth of things there are out there to do, forest school, language clubs, science groups, days out, meet ups, groups of parents clubbing together to hire halls and put on plays, it sounds amazing! In fact, we are struggling to narrow down all the classes and groups as we can’t fit it all in to a week!

Other bonuses are trips to museums and galleries when they aren’t overcrowded, meaning you get to see more. You can also take holidays out of season, saving so much money, although with our son still at school we won’t be able to take advantage of that. A popular misconception is that you need to be at a desk all day, every day doing work. Home education is so much more then that, you really can learn anywhere!


We’re in the extremely privileged position that we can do this. I already work from home and I can move my work hours to the evenings and weekends. I can also tailor the blog to a more home schooling slant and document some of the things we get up to and the highs (and lows!) that the next few months have in store. I have amazing support from my husband, my family and some wonderful friends, including my lovely blogger friend Jenny who has made me crave the lovely outdoor life she lives with her two boys home educating and been such a wonderful source of advice and inspiration.

We haven’t ruled out a return to a school one day, I have no idea what the reality of having my child home again full time will do to me, maybe I’ll find it too much, maybe she will. But for now I’m really really looking forward to getting my daughter back and seeing her smile again.

 

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21 Comments

  1. March 29, 2018 / 5:34 am

    Oh wow, what a huge decision, but it sounds like the right one for everyone at this stage. I have often considered home education for my eldest, she’s autistic and really struggled to fit in with the school rules, but I honestly don’t think I could keep up with her need for stimulation! Best of luck with it all, I’m sure you’ll do great.

  2. March 29, 2018 / 5:37 am

    Love this! It’s almost exactly what I wrote a few weeks ago when my son left school for very similar reasons! We’re about a month in now and loving it. It takes some getting used to (especially finding the time to do my own work around it), but we’re taking it slowly. Good luck to you and your daughter – I can’t wait to read more about your adventures!

  3. March 29, 2018 / 5:39 am

    Ah that sounds excellent. It’s something I have been thinking about for my daughter too because to be honest, she’s feeling the same. Although I also really don’t like her teacher and how she is with the kids, or the parents! I look forward to reading how things go for you all!

  4. March 29, 2018 / 5:42 am

    Incredible! Well done for taking such an important step for your daughter. My eldest son is also very anxious and the thought of school terrified me. Fortunately he has thrived on the structure and challenge, things which I wasn’t able to provide with as much consistency at home (because life is at home too!!)

  5. March 30, 2018 / 9:55 am

    Well done for making such a big decision Louise. I honestly think I would do exactly the same. I have always said that school is the right place for the children as long as they are happy. If ever they’re not happy I’d seriously reconsider.
    Nat.x

  6. March 31, 2018 / 7:57 pm

    Such a huge decision, but I have no doubt that if anyone can make a success of it, you guys can! xxx

  7. April 15, 2018 / 9:35 pm

    Oh my gosh this topic is literally on loop at the moment across my family homes (aunties, uncles & grandparents all in on the debate)… My family are young no.1 is not even 2 and second bub is still baking but, education is something I feel so strongly about. It’s the biggest legacy you bestowe to your child, I feel such a huge responsibility to get it right! It would be great to hear continued updates from you on this topic and well done for responding and reacting to each of your kids individual needs, I hope everything goes well! #bigpinklink

  8. April 16, 2018 / 8:20 am

    big decision but clearly it sounds like its the right one for you and your family. I hope she starts feeling a bit happier now. Ever since she started in year one my eldest is constantly worrying about school but sadly home school isn’t an option for us as we both work. #bigpinklink

  9. April 16, 2018 / 8:36 am

    Traditional schooling does not work for every child and it’s so awesome you are able to meet this need for your daughter! Can’t wait to read about the journey. #bigpinklink

  10. April 16, 2018 / 10:59 am

    Big decision! Good luck 🙂 I’d imagine that more parents would love to be in a position to do this, but can’t for various reasons. There’s, as you say, loads of stuff out there and it’s become more mainstream.

    Not sure if you’ve come across the blog, Inside Martyn’s Thoughts but that might be useful. He’s another home schooler: http://www.insidemartynsthoughts.com/search/label/Home%20Schooling

    Look forward to hearing how it goes for all of you.

  11. April 16, 2018 / 2:31 pm

    I say fair play if you are happy doing it and it suits your family then why the hell, not X #bigpinklink

  12. April 16, 2018 / 6:12 pm

    It sounds like you’ll all be a lot happier. My two boys do okay in school but I can imagine why you made the decision you did. Good luck with it. xx
    #bigpinklink

  13. April 16, 2018 / 8:39 pm

    This is a great decision. I am looking forward to homeschooling my little one in a year or two. #bigpinklink

  14. April 16, 2018 / 9:44 pm

    The home education journey is a wobbly one in my experience but on the great days it is wonderful and there is no doubt I have seen my two children develop so much since we took this route after my daughter was bullied by the Head as well as children in her last school. I am pleased it is now seen as a more “normal” choice and that can only build as home educated graduates go out into the world to show what they can do #BigPinkLink

  15. April 17, 2018 / 7:34 pm

    I love the idea of homeschooling and all the outside activities that can be incorporated into it. Sounds like the right decision at this time for your family and daughter and l look forward to hearing all about it! #Bigpinklink

  16. April 18, 2018 / 12:18 pm

    That sounds like the best decision for your family. I’m so glad you’ve been able to do it. I wish I could do this for my littles, but I know my son wouldn’t react well to it. He and I would clash badly lol. My daughter on the other hand would probably love it and do really well. I look forward to hearing how you all get on! I think you’ve made such a great decision 🙂

    Jemma x
    #bigpinklink

  17. April 19, 2018 / 7:05 pm

    Brave, and Bravo! are what I say to you! Best of luck, and may you all end up smiling! xoxo #Bigpinklink

  18. April 20, 2018 / 9:54 am

    I hope it is going well. I know as I comment now you are a week in and from a distance it has look draining but really good fun. From what you have said it sounds like the best decision for you and her. The pressure of school can be too much for everyone and even I struggle when I read passive aggressive notes from Ellie’s teacher in her reading record saying Ellie can keep the book longer as she hasn’t read it at home yet (one day after she receives it and she is only in reception!). The idea of quieter trips out are really appealing and you make it sound less scary than I imagine. I hope you can all make it work. #BigPinkLink

  19. April 20, 2018 / 10:16 am

    It is such a big decision and I think there is a lack of confidence in schools and the curriculum at the moment which means more and more parents are choosing to home school. Good luck! #bigpinklink

  20. April 22, 2018 / 2:59 pm

    Hat’s off to you that takes some dedication from you. Best of luck #bigpinklink

  21. April 22, 2018 / 6:11 pm

    I’m so excited to read about how you are going to turn that frown upside down. I agree with you that it is possible to learn without being strapped to a desk with a text book each day. May it work out well for you. #bigpinklink

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