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When you’re just ok at Christmas! No Mum guilt here!

Christmas got you feeling the Mum guilt?!

Inspired by a post by Stevie, A Cornish Mum blog, I thought I would make you feel better if you are feeling guilty about not living up to the ‘perfect’ social media Christmases you see plastered all over social media this time of year.

First off, let me start by saying that I LOVE seeing people being extra at Christmas, I see the homemade advents, the crafts galore, the beautiful magazine perfect homes and the colour coordinated decorations and I have a fleeting thought that it would be so nice to have that life……and then reality gives me a nudge, (I trip over the too full washing basket as I am so distracted by instagram!), and reminds me that that will never be me. And that’s ok!

Matching pyjamas – Families in matching festive pyjamas looks fab. Even if I buy us all matching pjs, they will get approximately one wear, (excluding Dave aka The Grinch obvs!), before being scattered to the wind, or rather across the house, never to be paired again! A top will emerge from the laundry mountain before sinking down to the fathomless depths again, some bottoms will be discovered behind a chest of drawers in July and worn all summer only to be lost again in December, it’s all too disorganised!

Beautiful home – Ahahahahha hahah haahaha excuse me while I pull a muscle laughing. My home is not beautiful. It has the potential to be, the basics are there but the over flowing washing baskets, dubious stains on the carpets and endless and relentless tidal waves of clutter put paid to any illusion of beauty in this home. Not to mention the puppy that destroys everything in his path and leaves it in pieces strewn across the floor! Why do you think most of my instagram photos are taken outdoors?! 😀

Colour co-ordinated decorations – All the nopes, I just can’t manage it, our Christmas decs are an eclectic mix of things the kids have made, my Grandparent’s decorations, stuff I made in primary school, random ugly things the kids chose as toddlers that they wouldn’t be dissuaded from, (green glittery frog in red high heels I’m looking at you here!), and random bits and bobs we’ve collected over the years. It is a riot of memories though, it may not be instagrammable but our tree takes me back to Christmases throughout my life.

Christmas Bedding – Now this is something I have done after reading this fab post by Nomipalony! I bought some in the January sale last year and I just need to wash it, you know, after the two full baskets that are waiting! And I won’t be photographing it because it will clash with the kids’ bedroom decor and our bed is always covered in clean washing!

Advent Calendars – I always want to make it, with lovely thoughtful gifts each day. Or do a book advent. However, I normally end up racing around the shops choosing whatever is left and hoping the chocolate won’t be too yuk, this year I had to emergency order some online. Bonus was, £8 and there were 4 of them! So we all got one, and the chocolate is decent too!

Elf on the Shelf – I do try. I don’t have the official one as I think it looks creepy but we have two cute ones that I dug out from their hiding place, (stuffed into the back of my bedside cabinet with all the teeth the tooth fairy supposedly took!), and I make a bit of a half hearted effort by moving them around the house. Usually once I’ve got into bed and am just drifting off. To be honest, because we do Dinovember (Elf on the Shelf but with more teeth! All the toy dinosaurs move around at night!), I’ve run out of the little enthusiasm I’d had to start with very quickly! Also, my Mum’s dog got hold of one and savaged it’s hat and ate an ear. She did her best with the repair job but he’s not the most photogenic anymore. 😀

Amazing meals – Well, I can’t cook very well for a start. And my presentation is appalling. Then there is table wear. For some reason we don’t seem to have a matching set of anything! We are grown ups with a family but don’t have a matching set of bowls. I just don’t adult well! So a photo of mis-matched crockery with a assortment of wine glasses in different sizes and shapes just can’t compete. 🙂

Beautifully wrapped presents – Under any gorgeous instagram Christmas tree is a pile of neatly wrapped and beribboned presents. Not here! The ones my husband has wrapped look like a paper disaster zone, none of our paper matches and sometimes we even run out mid gift and have some crazy frankenstein gift going on!

Happy snow photos – I so wish we lived in Canada sometimes! Families in Christmas jumpers in swirling snow with pure white drifts everywhere. If we ever do get snow here, it’s a poorly grey, patchy affair, everyone looks cold and snotty and it is nigh on impossible to photograph falling snow and make it look half decent!

You know what though, we have a lovely time. The kids are excited, everyone is more then happy to shove piles of clutter to the side to make room for the cheeseboard and no one cares what plate they are eating off as long as Dave is cooking!

So if you don’t have the instagrammable Christmas, please don’t worry, put down your phone, watch another episode of Only Fools and Horses, unwrap your 50th chocolate and look round at all the smiles around you, that’s really all that matters!



  1. Tee Simpson
    December 3, 2017 / 7:00 pm


  2. December 4, 2017 / 9:04 am

    I definitely do not have an Instagramable Christmas living room…but I still take the photo! #bigpinklink

  3. December 4, 2017 / 2:35 pm

    Hi, our Christmas would never make for great IG posts. We don’t have matching jumpers, or pj’s. We just enjoy family time together. I do get my advent calendars in advance though I have to do I don’t miss out #bigpinklink

  4. December 4, 2017 / 3:20 pm

    We have matching jumpers because we can’t get enough of the Christmas cheese! I don’t think our wrapping is very good and end up getting stuck to it! It’s ok to be ‘normal’ this time of year and not instagramable 😉 #BigPinkLink x

  5. December 4, 2017 / 9:24 pm

    Oh I hear ya. I think the last time we had matching decorations was before the girls arrived but now the tree is strewn with handmade wonderfulness from school and nursery. And trying to get us all in the same PJ’s at the same time just wouldn’t happen, someone would rebel. Great post, made me giggle. #bigpinklink

  6. December 4, 2017 / 10:09 pm

    Reading a fair few posts like this one and hope and pray it means women are finally getting sense and easing up on themselves this year. #BigPinkLinky

  7. December 6, 2017 / 7:33 am

    I’m so rubbish at wrapping presents and our Christmas tree is on our dining table because we don’t have space in our flat! It might not be instagram worthy but it’s still put as in the festive spirit! #bigpinklink

  8. December 9, 2017 / 8:19 pm

    It doesn’t matter whether you are perfect or not just as long as you all have a great time. #bigpinklink

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