Having a baby will change your life. You can often be so focused on getting the little darling out, (what? Out of where?), that the actual baby part can be a bit of a shock. You are responsible for keeping the tiny human alive when they are completely helpless. This is a huge responsibility but friends can really keep you going. I’ve compiled a list of the 6 friends all new Mums need.
The honest Mum:
Tells it like it is, poonamis and sleep deprived boob flashes, stitches and milk sprays galore. This friend makes you feel better about everything and you’ll either be thinking ‘me too!’ or ‘thank god that didn’t happen to me!’.
The Mum of older children:
This Mum has been there, done that. She has experienced every lump, bump, rash, phase and public temper tantrum going. And remembers it well. A big bonus is that her children are older and so she has her hands free for cuddles. She is also more then happy to hold your sweet, easy, compliant little baby and remember the ‘good old days’ before her little darlings started talking back, arguing and generally being incredibly loud and uncompliant. Never feel that you are taking advantage of this Mum when she offers to wind, rock, cuddle your baby for you so you can eat, she honestly doesn’t mind and you may just struggle to get your precious bundle back!
The Mum with the baby the exact same age:
This Mum is a very important friend to have as babies change so fast that even a month can make a big difference in where they are at. Chances are that they will feel equally out of their depth, exhausted, confused and sleep deprived as you and so won’t mind if you forget to text back or go to the wrong place to meet them.
The neurotic Mum:
This Mum panics about every little thing and is on first name terms with all the receptionists at the doctors. She will make you feel better about yourself because ‘at least you don’t panic like Carol’. She is also a good person to run any worries by because chances are, she will have researched the very problem in great depth already.
The organised Mum:
Although she may make you feel totally inadequate due to your inability to get just dressed every day, the organised Mum is a brilliant asset to any group, she will be the one to round up all your phone numbers and create the group chat, she’ll instigate meet ups, coordinate dates that everyone is free and find all the best places to go. She will probably also be the one to get the Dads involved as well, arranging evenings out and family Sundays.
The child free friend:
Ever so important. These friends are similar to Mum of older children in that they always have their hands free for a baby holding session but they also have amazing stories to tell you to keep you connected to life before babies. You will live vicariously through them until your child has grown up enough for you to be able to reclaim some semblance of a life. This will be when they are roughly around 18. 😉
The online friends:
There are more then one of these usually, a group that often forms on a forum in a ‘due in’ group where everyone compares pregnancy ailments and ‘getting the baby’ out techniques. It then moves to a facebook group and everyone will get closer and share more personal details until you realise you speak to these ladies more than anyone in real life. There is always someone else awake and ready to chat and having so many different view points means you get great advice. You may never meet some of these people in real life, but if you do, it’s like you have never been apart.