You have friends you’ve never met?! Online friendships.

I remember when I was a child, if our friends weren’t in, that was that, you couldn’t text, whatsapp or DM them, you had to wait for them to call you back, now online friendships mean that you’re never out of touch wherever you are in the World.

I remember, after the very sad news of David Bowie’s untimely death, (and Alan Rickman, all in one week, double sob!), there were lots of things posted about him, and one video that I saw really struck a chord with me. You can see it here.

In it, he is talking about the internet, at the time just a new thing, a recent discovery. In the video, he talks about the way the internet will revolutionise the world. Jeremy Paxman is obviously not convinced but David could see the potential of it even when it was just a germ of an idea.

I personally credit the internet with something wonderful. I have lots of friends that I’ve never even met. You wouldn’t have thought it possible twenty years ago, the idea would have been mad, but it’s true. I joined a facebook group that stemmed from baby expert when I was pregnant with my first. That was six years ago now. We shared every step of the journey with each other, the bump photos, the fears, the gross bits, we cried together, we laughed, we shared our massive frustrations when a few of us went massively overdue, (you know who you are ladies, my gosh those 14 days were long!!!), and we celebrated when each new bundle arrived safely.

In those early days, weeks, months, there were a lot of early hours; ‘anyone online?’ messages and just seeing a friendly face pop up could make the night time blues better. We swapped tips, sympathised, recommended brands, at one point, almost all our babies were sporting the same star wraps and then the same dribble bibs. We even managed to meet a few times, never all of us but all the same, photos were shared and we all felt more connected.

As time went on, I’ve had less and less time to keep in such close contact, but there is still the very strong feeling that we all care about each other. Pleased to see updates that everyone is doing well, and when someone isn’t, there is an outpouring of support, even flowers and cookies being arranged at times of great need. (That still makes me smile thinking about how lovely it was to receive ladies.xx) What started as a chat forum has grown into something so much more and all through the power of the internet. We can see pictures of first days at school, see videos of one another’s children, hear their accent. Our younger ones are often wearing clothing from others in the group thanks to the off shoot clothes swap group.

When my son was born, I joined another group and although I had even less time to devote to it, I still feel a part of a friendship circle that is really special to me. I share these women’s joys and pains and it is so wonderful to have that. Without the internet, I’d have felt very isolated as a mother. There are no other ways for so many at exactly the same stage to connect. I find even if you have a baby just a year after someone else, you can be at such different stages so quickly that it is very hard to even remember things about what is really such a short while ago.

Now in my new field as a blogger, I am meeting so many more wonderful people and discovering a whole new commmunity where chats on twitter move over to facebook friendships and whatsapp conversations. Even get togethers, all though some people inconsiderately live too far away in places like Australia! 😉 I talk to my blogging friends every day, we chat work, pass jobs, share ideas for instagram and facebook and totally get it if someone says that they lost a blog post or deleted a photo by accident!

While it will never be a replacement for friendships when you can see, touch, hug someone, they are no less real friendships, and even more excitingly, lots of my online relationships have developed into meet ups in the real world and I hope this continues for many years to come. If you are looking to take your online friendships offline and need somewhere to meet up, Party Houses have large houses to rent in the UK  sleeping up to 40, so no matter the size of your group, you can still get together and get those hugs! There are so many wonderful people out there and the internet gives you an ability to access them in a way you never would have been able to before.

Have you discovered the wonder of the internet friendship? I’d love to hear your stories.

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7 Comments

  1. January 15, 2016 / 10:26 pm

    I know…how rude am I? : ) I have made such amazing friends since I started blogging too, yourself included. It is so exciting to be able to share with others what you love. It is as you say, a real community.The power of technology, eh? Hope to meet you and the others real soon! Thanks for the hug, feels just as warm and comforting as the real thing. Sending one back to you now!

  2. January 21, 2016 / 4:26 pm

    It’s true–we’re all connected in the ether in ways not possible a couple of decades ago. And, as with most things, we can use that connection for good or not so good. I love the positive stories.

    • Pink Pear Bear
      Author
      January 23, 2016 / 8:45 am

      I think it can be such a positive thing, as you say, and it is so important to focus on the amazing good that it can bring and not let the few who are intent on using it negatively ruin it for everyone else. I absolutely love how I can find out so much about other countries and have friends from all corners of the globe. So exciting!

  3. April 22, 2016 / 11:42 am

    I know exactly what you mean. I have a lovely group of friends who I speak to daily on Whatsapp, it started from a pregnancy group and over the past few years has whittled down to 6-8 key members, but we are still in touch on Facebook. We have shares so many experience together it’s been great x

    • pinkpearbear
      April 24, 2016 / 7:18 pm

      That’s so lovely Cherie. There’s a special kind of bond that comes from pregnancy groups online I think. Those long hours nightfeeding were made so much better by seeing a friend online. 🙂

  4. August 23, 2017 / 9:33 am

    I have loved meeting so many great friends on twitter and some I’ve met up with at blogging conferences, others not so much. But it has opened a whole new way of making friends. xx

  5. September 3, 2017 / 5:50 pm

    I’ve got a post coming up this week that is along the same lines! I think online friendships, especially when you’re thrown in to the deep end of motherhood, are amazing and the support we get from groups and forums is often invaluable! x

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