55   728
64   655
54   328
80   291
88   726
88   639

Being ill as a parent.

Having pretty poorly this weekend, it got me to thinking about the difference between being ill when you are Everyone Else In The Entire World, (EEITEW) and being poorly as A Parent. (AP) Let’s have a compare shall we!

EEITEW: Phone in sick.

AP: Ahahahahahahahahahahaha*deep breath*hahahahahahahahahaha!


EEITEW: Stay in bed.

AP: Attempt to stay in bed. Everyone else stays in with you, leaving you with half a pillow and your already lowered patience levels pushed to the limits by the whinging, singing, fighting and moaning about needing breakfast.


EEITEW: A day at home.

AP: Unless you manage to time your illness with a weekend that your partner has nothing planned, you are basically screwed, school runs still need to be completed and any Mum knows that a full day at home with kids can actually be worse all round!


EEITEW: Hope there is someone around to bring you water and tea, healthy meals and soothe your fevered brow.

AP: Drag your fevered brow downstairs to make breakfast and packed lunches.


EEITEW: Not change out of your pajamas.

AP: Want desperately to stay in your pajamas but equally don’t wish to be the subject of a letter from the school!


EEITEW: Gain control of the remote and a blanket and binge watch netflix until you feel better.

AP: Watch so much kids tv that your brain starts crying as you are two weak to attempt anything more entertaining while your children alternately jump up and down on you and steal your blanket.


I do need to add that actually, Mr Pear Bear has been pretty lovely this weekend, once he’d finished doing what he needed to do and realised that it wasn’t just a ‘little cold’ and I am actually aching, shivery and weak, then he stopped making jokes about ‘man flu’, stepped up and has been a fab nurse.

He also started on our veg garden plan and I’m so happy. I will keep you updated as to how we get on with our luscious greens plans. 🙂




  1. March 21, 2016 / 8:10 am

    *Turns off Cbeebies*
    Haha Oh Yes. After a week of Flu I can say you have nailed this 100 per cent.!! Brilliant 🙂
    *Turns Cbeebies back on and resumes coughing fit*

    • March 21, 2016 / 8:11 am

      Me too!!! I’ve been sooooo poorly this time. I don’t usually get so ill! Get well soon lovely.xx

  2. March 21, 2016 / 8:12 am

    Hope you are feeling better now. Get well soon. #BigPingLink

  3. March 21, 2016 / 8:13 am

    Oh dear! I hope you are feeling much better now. There’s nothing worse than feeling pants and knowing that you still have to do all the things you normally do. I remember having gastro when my children were really young and someone close to me came round to ‘help’. Said helper fell asleep on the couch and I woke up just in time to stop my son from sticking his hand in the DVD player x #bigpinklink

    • March 21, 2016 / 8:14 am

      Oh no!! Some help you can actually do without huh?!

  4. March 21, 2016 / 9:04 am

    It’s so tough when we have to just suck it up and keep going! Hope your feeling better and Mr P is still being a good nurse. The one that gets me is when your non parent friends say they are tired and poorly, and they can’t sleep!!! I mean come on, you can nap whenever…grrr #bigpinklink

  5. March 21, 2016 / 9:08 am

    This is me, right now. My children are ripping up magazines all over the carpet and I care not. I wish you a speedy recovery! #bigpinklink

  6. March 21, 2016 / 9:11 am

    Being ill as a parent is like a death sentence. You literally have to ignore your illness. I kind of think it’s worse than when the kids are ill because at least we can tend to our kids. Oh it did make me laugh, it’s so unfair!

  7. March 21, 2016 / 9:16 am

    the only job you cannot take a day off, being a parent 🙁

  8. March 21, 2016 / 9:18 am

    Oh I feel your pain being ill with little ones is not fun at all! Hope you’re feeling better xx #bigpinklink

  9. March 21, 2016 / 9:21 am

    I wrote something similar to this last year, it completely sucks being ill when you have little people to wrangle! Hope you are feeling better now and thanks for hosting 🙂 #bigpinklink

  10. March 21, 2016 / 9:23 am

    I feel for you. There is nothing worse 🙁 Hope you are feeling better soon and the veg patch sounds like it is going to be awesome! #bigpinklink

  11. March 21, 2016 / 9:26 am

    I’m home with a poorly child today feeling guilty for not being at work. Ill parent or ill child is definitely not the same for mums. Hope you are feeling better. #bigpinklink Lifeinthemumslane

  12. March 21, 2016 / 9:33 am

    Haha this is so true, you definitely don’t get any rest when your a mum #bigpinklink

  13. March 21, 2016 / 9:55 am

    Ah yes I feel your pain. My 10 year old bluntly asked if I was going to die when I was ill last. Maybe then I would have gotten some sympathy or even help!!! Lol

  14. March 21, 2016 / 10:10 am

    Oh NOO! Hope you are feeling better now? I feel your pain, I’ve been feeling so ill recently and employed some parenting tactics to cope. I wrote a post about it ‘lessons in lazy parenting’ (ok not technically lazy, just ill!)…wow things are different now AP aren’t they!? Can’t wait to see your veg patch developments, I love a good veg patch #bigpinklink

  15. March 21, 2016 / 10:14 am

    Oh I hope you feel better soon. Thats the things. being sick as mama just sucks. and sometimes we would be lost without our Misters. Cs they can be pretty awesome. We started our veg bed too this week. I was a bit overambitious with my seeds and planted them weeks ago, brought them outside and the frost killed them. Bummer. would love hear more about what you grow and how you get on.

  16. March 21, 2016 / 10:23 am

    Oh man I feel you on this one! This reminds me of the time I was hungover with Bear and my partner was out the whole day, DEATH. I hope you’re feeling better! Thanks for hosting #BigPinkLink

  17. March 21, 2016 / 10:30 am

    Nice to see I’m not the only bloke who starts off by making jokes, then only when the seriousness of the illness is confirmed…..offer sympathy. #bigpinklink

  18. March 21, 2016 / 10:50 am

    I was ill last week for the first time since having a baby and I did not know what to do! I desperately tried to keep her clean and fed but oh man it was tough! Hope you are feeling better 🙂 Jemma x #bigpinklink

  19. March 21, 2016 / 11:00 am

    Oh you poor poor love – so know where you are coming from – hope you start to feel a whole lot better soon. Don’t you think that the weekend is a little like this sometimes – everyone else gets 2 days off of work and we are still washing, cooking, cleaning, up at 6 etc and repeat! Though my husband is great and its his turn to cook on a Saturday (funnily enough we always end up with a take out!)

  20. March 21, 2016 / 11:10 am

    Oh yes this is very very familiar. I have to say I tend to just take myself off to bed and leave my poor hubby to get on with it.

  21. March 21, 2016 / 12:21 pm

    I always hated being sick when my kids were small because of all the reasons you mentioned! Now that they’re older, I can explain to them that I am sick and they turn around and take care of me! Isn’t that nice?! My boys are awesome that way! Hopefully, yours will be like that when they get older. Hope you feel better soon! My teenager had been sick for two weeks and now that he’s better my youngest is getting sick so I hope you are better soon:) Thanks so much for hosting #bigpinklink

  22. March 21, 2016 / 12:59 pm

    hope you are feeling better, mums cant do ill! #bigpinklink xx

  23. March 21, 2016 / 1:46 pm

    The worst thing is being ill as a parent. It’s awful! #bigpinklink

  24. March 21, 2016 / 2:05 pm

    Ha ha! This sums up being ill as a parent perfectly! It is one of the hardest things about being a parent… correction the hardest thing! I survived with endless episodes of Paw Patrol and Peppa Pig and actually moved in with my mum for 3 days as I just couldn’t cope! Hope you feel better now? #bigpinklink

  25. March 21, 2016 / 2:07 pm

    There’s definitely a theme this week, I’ve just written about the worst things about being ill as a mum! Not fun- although at least I don’t have to worry about school runs. Hope you feel better soon lovely, great post. #bigpinklink

  26. March 21, 2016 / 2:29 pm

    Ha, sorry, this is funny. It shouldn’t be though. I’ve actually thought I’d rather be in hospital than ill at home with my kids! Poor you x #bigpinklink

  27. March 21, 2016 / 2:38 pm

    The blanket stealing and the endless cartoons are definitely the worst! This post is brilliant, so true 🙂 #bigpinklink

    • March 23, 2016 / 2:30 pm

      Popping back in again from #abitofeverything x

  28. March 21, 2016 / 2:57 pm

    Completely agree with you on all of the above! My kids also seem to hate it when i lay down on the sofa or close my eyes just for a second…… (sigh)
    As a mother you there is NO WAY to recover apart form hot toddys of course 🙂


  29. March 21, 2016 / 3:07 pm

    Ugh, I’m not even at the school stage yet and it’s still bad. Worse if you’re ill and so are the kids and you have to nurse them back to health whilst you feel like death warmed up. Hope you’re feeling better; sounds like a grim bug.


  30. March 21, 2016 / 3:16 pm

    Hahaha brilliant, school run is the most difficult when poorly. There should be poorly mum’s helpers in the world who we can pay to do our mummy duties when sick. Once we are better we won’t have to play catch up with the house work.

  31. March 21, 2016 / 4:03 pm

    This is the actual reason I didn’t have kids sooner! I looked after my poorly nephew once and had a migraine come on. It terrified me! Hope you’re feeling better x

  32. March 21, 2016 / 4:37 pm

    Aww sounds like no fun at all 🙁 Are you on the mend? As much as I hate doing the school run when I’m ill I reckon its a way better alternative to having to cope with kids all day, unless you have one under 4 in which case you’re stuffed either way!! I felt very delicate on Saturday as a result of a perfectly civilised School Quiz Night that turned into one of those totally unplanned and wayyyyyyy past bedtime nights – it was a looooooooooong day 🙂

  33. March 21, 2016 / 4:49 pm

    Oh no get well soon! I’ve been ill for the past three weeks, am on my third course of antibiotics for laryngitis, tonsillitis, labrythitis and pretty much every “itis” going. Never have I felt so poorly and four children on top has been a living hell!! We have survived on cbeebies, god knows how! #bigpinklink

  34. March 21, 2016 / 5:16 pm

    I so agree, other than school runs part as we’re not at that stage… But yes it SO hard being ill as a parent. I just wrote a post at the weekend about it as I had my first experience of calling hubby to come home from work as I was too ill to look after H. Hope yours feeling better now xx #bigpinklink

  35. March 21, 2016 / 5:22 pm

    Hope you’re now on the mend? I know exactly how you feel having had tonsillitis to deal with and look after the kids. It’s horrible having to try and carry on. And the constant loop of rubbish TV doesn’t help. Wishing you better. Thanks for hosting (my first!) #BigPinkLink

  36. March 21, 2016 / 6:56 pm

    Totally sympathise. Last weekend, I felt so bad, I actually fell asleep with the 4 kids yelling around me. I remember at one point hearing Patch reassure the others that it was ok, I was still breathing, even if .i wasn’t meeting their demands!

  37. March 21, 2016 / 7:05 pm

    Oh it’s rubbish isn’t it! It’s actually a blessing if, like me the other day, your children are at nursery/school all day when you are ill. At least you can put This Morning on and doze off on the sofa without demands for Paw Patrol being screeched into your ear! Thanks again for hosting #bigpinklink

  38. March 21, 2016 / 7:26 pm

    OMG bless you lovely. I hope you feel better. It is sooo hard being at home with kids when you are sick. I pray when I am ill it is a weekend or a nursery day. Thanks for hosting xx

  39. March 21, 2016 / 8:10 pm

    “Your brain starts crying” yep yep this is me watching cbeebies – it is doubly hard work being ill and being a mama! Glad your Mr helped in the end, feel better soon xx #bigpinklink

  40. March 21, 2016 / 8:24 pm

    Oh nooooooo poor you! Being sick as a mum is the worst! Last time I had flu I spent most of my time cleaning sick up… someone else’s at that! Bleughh!

    Thanks for hosting! #bigpinklonk

    Dawn x

  41. March 21, 2016 / 8:41 pm

    This was me last weekend, with the littles all being ill too! Really hope you’re feeling better, being ill sucks! Have a good week, thanks for hosting #bigpinklink x (Also totally ordering a pair of those leggings at the end of the month!!)

  42. March 21, 2016 / 8:46 pm

    You have perfectly summed up being ill as a parent. You don’t have a chance to revel in your poorliness when you’re a mum. I miss my netflix days, now if I want to lie dieing on the sofa I have to do so with a toddler climbing over me and instead of netflix I’m forced to watch peppa pig. I hope you are feeling better soon x #bigpinklink

  43. March 21, 2016 / 9:37 pm

    Yup, totally agree with this. Being a parent when ill is THE worst. Hope you’re feeling better now #bigpinklink

  44. March 21, 2016 / 9:44 pm

    Oh god it’s so terrible being ill when you have little ones to look after, I really feel for you reading this, hope that you’re feeling better now. I was ill for pretty much all of February, one bug was a stomach bug or food poisoning so I was being sick every hour between feeds – not good at all, went you just want to curl up in a hole. So pleased the veg patch is coming along, eat those greens they will keep the germs at bay. Thanks for hosting a fab Linky. Claire x #BigPinkLink

  45. March 21, 2016 / 10:17 pm

    Oh dear, hope you’re feeling better. Well done to your husband for looking after you and starting the garden to cheer you up, that’s a very thoughtful thing to do! Thanks for hosting #bigpinklink

  46. March 21, 2016 / 10:25 pm

    Argh, being sick as a parent is the worst. The last time I was ill I had to pick Piglet up from nursery, and got off the bus with him under one arm, and the other one holding my hair back while I stopped to be sick (narrowly missed being sick on the actual bus). It was classy. #bigpinklink

  47. March 22, 2016 / 2:45 am

    hope you are all healed up! I recently went through this too. I hate that a day off seems so appealing you imagine watching tv and resting up in your pyjamas whilst sipping tea, but in fact your head hurts so much you can’t even watch tv after all! And yes the kids needs don’t stop, i fact half the time they act worse! #bigpinklink

  48. March 22, 2016 / 7:29 am

    Hope you’re feeling better lovely. Sorry to hear you’ve been poorly. Your first point was just spot on. Phoning in sick to who??!! #bigpinklink

  49. March 22, 2016 / 12:19 pm

    Aw, Louise…I’m sorry you were down. But it’s great that Mr. Pear Bear pitched in where you couldn’t. That is priceless. I’m one of the EEITEW, so I can only empathize with you, but you totally tickled me pink. LOL! #bigpinklink

  50. March 22, 2016 / 12:22 pm

    I hear you! I remembered being so sick all day in bed and my child still asks me “What’s for dinner, mum?”. I was too weak to even look up at him. Well, at least he was old enough to make himself a sandwich. Brilliant post! I was nodding along and saying yep, yep and yep!! Thanks for hosting #bigpinklink and you so know you are on my Spitback Award List!

  51. March 22, 2016 / 1:39 pm

    So true! These days I dread getting ill, not for the actual feeling rubbish bit but the sheer panic about how children will get fed, clothed and to school on time! #bigpinklink

  52. March 22, 2016 / 2:06 pm

    Hope you feel better soon. I know what you mean, there is no one to cover, so I’m just going to do whatever it is and hope I don’t die / throw up again.

  53. March 22, 2016 / 2:09 pm

    Totally agree, being sick is the worst at the best of times let alone when you are responsible for others! #bigpinklink

    Countryside Cookery

  54. March 22, 2016 / 5:44 pm

    Totally agree, as if being ill wasn’t bad enough, having to also cope with the kids is just rubbing salt into the wound! Becky #bigpinklink

  55. March 22, 2016 / 7:24 pm

    Yes-you’ve nailed it!! I used to be a particular fan of the binge watching Netflix until I felt better. I just hate being ill as a parent!! I can remember crying in the park once when I had tonsillitis, I just felt soooo ill. My husband is rubbish when I’m ill, he just panics about having to do any solo childcare whatsoever, and makes me feel guilty!! Sorry you were ill, it’s just too rubbish…
    Thanks for co-hostessing another bumper week at #bigpinklink HQ!!

  56. March 22, 2016 / 8:53 pm

    Hope you’re feeling better. I had my first experience with this a week or so ago. Horrid vomit bug and baby. Ugh. It was the worst…

  57. March 23, 2016 / 12:32 am

    This is so true – it’s really crap being ill as a parent! #bigpinklink

  58. March 23, 2016 / 12:42 pm

    So funny! This is so true – don’t even THINK about getting ill as a parent…it’s just not worth it 😉 #bestandworst

  59. March 23, 2016 / 1:01 pm

    I work full time and I phoned in sick for the first time ever avoided if weeks back. I had the house to myself for the first time in about a year (as the kids still went to Grandma’s) and despite feeling really rubbish and ill, it was nice to just lay and have the TV to myself. Glad you’re feeling better. X

  60. March 23, 2016 / 1:13 pm

    I dread being ill. My son is 21mo and so far I’ve only been ill once and it was only for 24hours. Over the last few weeks everyone I know seems to be getting the sickness bug or some hideous virus and we’ve come away unscathed so far. I know it isn’t going to last. To make matters worse, I don’t have the hope of the husband being around at weekends because he manages a restaurant so works late and weekends. I’d have to hope my illness came on a sunday and monday (his days off). #BloggerClubUK

  61. March 23, 2016 / 1:18 pm

    Hope your better now though? We parents are hard core! Go us! Looking forward to seeing the garden plans… I think this will be my first year of not growing anything in a while, first year of babies life!! #bigpinklink

  62. March 23, 2016 / 1:36 pm

    Ugh, I totally feel your pain, hope you’re coming out of the other side of feverish hell. I so so miss being able to phone in sick. #bestandworst

  63. March 23, 2016 / 5:18 pm

    Loved this and thanks for sharing with #bestandworst 🙂 x

  64. March 23, 2016 / 9:34 pm

    Blurgh! I feel your pain! Our household has been riddled for the past month! It’s like a never ending cycle!! #BloggerClubUK xx

  65. March 24, 2016 / 8:18 pm

    Jet has seen my current illness as a great excuse to bust out his doctor’s kit and associated medical knowhow. I can assure you that being prodded and covered in plasters has not remotely helped with my general wellbeing! Get well soon,
    x Alice

    • March 25, 2016 / 8:10 am

      Haha! I have a little nurse that sounds just like Jet! Very sweet but very unrelaxing!

  66. March 25, 2016 / 7:44 am

    Oh yes I can totally relate to this. Husband has been off with flu-ey cold this week and when he rang in sick on the Monday, I thought I hope I don’t get it because there is no ringing in sick!

    I think my absolute hate would be to be ill and one of the little ones was ill too, nightmare!!!

    Hope you are feeling better now x

  67. March 29, 2016 / 6:50 am

    Oh I feel your pain. I’m a stay at home mum & if I get sick there is no break. No sleeping or resting. It makes it really hard to get better! I hope you are back to yourself now! Thanks so much for linking up with us! #bloggerclubuk

  68. May 25, 2016 / 7:54 am

    Oh no – hope you feel better soon! I never knew until I became a parent how tough it is when you are ill…thanks for hosting #bigpinklink

  69. February 16, 2017 / 6:09 am

    Yeah, it’s pretty rubbish, but you just have to get along with it. Says I, stay at home dad with two daughters.

Leave a Reply

Your e-mail address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.